The focus of my blog is find things that give me happiness and write about them.

I work in an office as a project engineer which means I spend most of my day in front of a computer. I do work but I also surf the internet and read my emails like most typical office workers. Yesterday, one of Oprah’s articles discussed a bête noire which is something that causes you harm or gets in the way of what you want to accomplish. I envision this bête noire as the devil on your shoulder, the monkey on your back, or Dexter’s dark passenger.  The monkey hanging on my back is my inability to appreciate my life, to be content, to be happy, and I want to work on changing my negative perspective.


Here’s the Oprah article I referenced:

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  1. I read the article and discovered some correlations with my dark passenger and events in my life! I too struggle with feeling happiness and most of the time settle for fullness. What I mean by fullness is that when I eat, I feel satiated for a short time and then the despair and self-loathing set in. I think because I stuggle every day with my dark passenger I have yet to be free of the bonds that keep me from truly feeling joy. Not that I havn’t had joyful moments but it doesn’t translate into a joyful life. These past few years are better and I have hope. Thats good enough sometimes.

    • I think most people struggle with finding that peace/happiness within themselves. I really wonder if the Dalai Lama or people like him find that contentedness. I’ve felt it in short moments of time and wonder if it was the experience I was going through at the time or something within myself at that moment. I don’t know but I do know that focusing on negative things and feelings doesn’t get me there. I hope you find more things that make your life joyful.

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